Published You may not yet be familiar with the internet phenomenon of the "blog" (short for "web log"), a web-based journal publishing the personal thoughts and opinions of a wide assortment of people. The concept is to publicly air the ideas and life of the writer and to invite comment and participation from like-minded (or opponent) thinkers. It is far more personal than an official web site and is often keyed to a special interest.
I read with interest the experiences of one such blogger over the month of January. For no apparent reason small gifts began to show up at the writer's home or workplace. They all related to a special interest of hers. Some of the items came from people with whom she had corresponded, some from those whose own blogs she referred to in her journal. Each was on-target to her preferences and completely unexpected. The phenomenon mysteriously continued throughout the month of January, the month of the writer's birthday. She was, as she expressed it, "gob-smacked."
Near the end of the month, the mystery of the present parade was revealed to the writer by its organizer. It seems that the writer had mentioned in passing to a fellow web correspondent that her birthday came so soon after Christmas that it had always been a bit of a disappointment. That was it - a passing comment in a longer conversation about the whole holiday phenomenon. The other writer, valuing the feelings of the person with whom an interest was shared, surreptitiously put together a month of recognition and celebration. Because she let someone know what she secretly wanted, the results appeared in the blogger's life on a scale she never could have imagined…worldwide!
How many of us have been brought up never to ask for what we need or want? What served to prevent a child rudely demanding candy or attention can develop into a habit of secreting away our true desires. Then, when as adults the world delivers something other than what we had in mind, maybe we should ask ourselves, "but how could it have known?"
Let the people around you know what you're looking for out of your life and your business. If you don't know how to take this step or how to express your needs comfortably in care-full conversations to produce successful responses, maybe you should talk to your coach.
This article was written by Vicki Stammer
March 5, 2003
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